Thursday, November 30, 2006
Tuesday, November 28, 2006
The Hopeless Romantics
Are men "really" romantic??Ok, are SOME men "really" romantic?
No.
I dont think so.
Men don't do (when they do, that is) romantic gestures cause they want to or cause it makes them feel good..they do it to get girls to fall for them.. And if the girl already fell for them, they do it to keep the girl satisfied..
Well, fair enough. Or is it?
When men get flowers.. gifts.. buy you dinner.. do you think they're truley being authentic??
Now I'm NOT saying this for any of the following reasons:
- to try to make men truly enjoy romance.. not in their genes.
- to make men stop doing romantic gestures...(howa had la2y).
I'm merely stating a reality for those of you who dont know.
Men are attracted to women physically..by sight.
Women are attracted emotionally.. by feeling.
Monday, November 27, 2006
"Happily Ever After"...a myth?!
Hey gurls,
hakhosh fel mawdou3 3alatoul..
I was talking to on of my colleagues.."MALE"..he is a nice young mane.. 30 years old ..married 4-5 years ago ..with a 3 yr old kid and expecting soon another isa..supposedly he got married after a love story ..zemeltouh fel gam3a (AUC)..
so far..the normal story..
where its supposed to be ended with "Happily Ever After"..
i barely know the guy..he jsut joined our team..
i noticed he was talkin to his wife over the phone (wasnt eavesdropping...bass howa a23ed oddamy) [side thought?: shouldnt it be earsdropping? gatt menain eaves?]
ma3alina..
he then came to me chatting..
he was like..el gawaz dah mot3eb..
its boils down to demands and obligations..
i was of course all attentive and asked about his marriage story..
which he gladly described ..as i jsut wrote above..
so i was like,
Me: it cant be possibly be this only..to me am dreaming that marriage is about partnership..sharing all your moments..of course there will be moments of boredom and jsut routine..but it can be only about demands and oblgations.
He: No believe me! it will just be it..3eshra!
Me: but at least u loved your wife b4
He: mesh far2ah keteer!!!!!!
Me: ma32oula?
He: the best thing in marriage believe me is ur kids
Me: tab ur wife?
He: she is there ..yeah
Me: u r makin the story very dull..
He: believe me..it is kinda
Me:........ (inner cry: ya mammy!)
He: marriage is amongst one of the things u accomplish in life..so it becomes part of ur life..beside other things..so 3ady!
Me:....... (inner prayer: ya rab i dont end up talking about my marriage the same way)
He: its jsut like having a mobile!!!!
Me: na3am??
He: ma3aky Kart wala Khatt...it depends on what u can afford!
Me: gawaz=mobile?
He: yeah..7aga ya3ny ma3aky..and it differs from one person to another..khatt wala kart!
Me:.........................
He: ana mesh 3ayez a7bettek!
Me: (eye roll) howa enta lessa..
El mohem, dont want to recite the whole talk...this is enough!
So..
Yeah i know marriage is not a fairy tale..
yeah i know happily ever after might be a myth...
but Excuse me..MOBILE?? ?(tab no3ouh eih?!)
then whats with all the talk about sharing and caring..or this is how its supposed to be..
Shouldnt i dream of making marriage a fairy tale?
or being realistic demands that i see marriage that way??
a MOBILE??? (tab i-mate tayyeb?)
7ad yefahemny?!
hakhosh fel mawdou3 3alatoul..
I was talking to on of my colleagues.."MALE"..he is a nice young mane.. 30 years old ..married 4-5 years ago ..with a 3 yr old kid and expecting soon another isa..supposedly he got married after a love story ..zemeltouh fel gam3a (AUC)..
so far..the normal story..
where its supposed to be ended with "Happily Ever After"..
i barely know the guy..he jsut joined our team..
i noticed he was talkin to his wife over the phone (wasnt eavesdropping...bass howa a23ed oddamy) [side thought?: shouldnt it be earsdropping? gatt menain eaves?]
ma3alina..
he then came to me chatting..
he was like..el gawaz dah mot3eb..
its boils down to demands and obligations..
i was of course all attentive and asked about his marriage story..
which he gladly described ..as i jsut wrote above..
so i was like,
Me: it cant be possibly be this only..to me am dreaming that marriage is about partnership..sharing all your moments..of course there will be moments of boredom and jsut routine..but it can be only about demands and oblgations.
He: No believe me! it will just be it..3eshra!
Me: but at least u loved your wife b4
He: mesh far2ah keteer!!!!!!
Me: ma32oula?
He: the best thing in marriage believe me is ur kids
Me: tab ur wife?
He: she is there ..yeah
Me: u r makin the story very dull..
He: believe me..it is kinda
Me:........ (inner cry: ya mammy!)
He: marriage is amongst one of the things u accomplish in life..so it becomes part of ur life..beside other things..so 3ady!
Me:....... (inner prayer: ya rab i dont end up talking about my marriage the same way)
He: its jsut like having a mobile!!!!
Me: na3am??
He: ma3aky Kart wala Khatt...it depends on what u can afford!
Me: gawaz=mobile?
He: yeah..7aga ya3ny ma3aky..and it differs from one person to another..khatt wala kart!
Me:.........................
He: ana mesh 3ayez a7bettek!
Me: (eye roll) howa enta lessa..
El mohem, dont want to recite the whole talk...this is enough!
So..
Yeah i know marriage is not a fairy tale..
yeah i know happily ever after might be a myth...
but Excuse me..MOBILE?? ?(tab no3ouh eih?!)
then whats with all the talk about sharing and caring..or this is how its supposed to be..
Shouldnt i dream of making marriage a fairy tale?
or being realistic demands that i see marriage that way??
a MOBILE??? (tab i-mate tayyeb?)
7ad yefahemny?!
Sunday, November 26, 2006
Male Drivers!!!
I have no idea where guys get the nerve to get up on their high horses and preach on how women can't drive. I was talking to a friend while driving home (6 October bridge is such a bore, I do most of my phone socializing while driving) and he was driving too.* The car in front of him abruptly stops and decides to drop people off completely blocking the narrow street. He starts off on women drivers and how they can't drive.
My feminist gene acts up at the accusation and I rise to the challenge. Honestly look around you, you claim men can drive, YET most if not all accidents involve male drivers, drunk teens, doped truck drivers, insane microbus drivers and dead beat taxi drivers. Then you have the nerve of claiming women can't drive. I mean PLEASE, we get cut off, hit on, bulleyed out of parking spots, and its us that can't drive.
I beg to differ. I think women drive just fine (at least most of them) its the stunts guys drivers pull that force us to react funny. Now if everybody drove according to the rules, we'd outdrive those guys anyday.
Ma 3alina.
* Both me and my friend are very careful drivers and were using headsets to have this phone argument. Good news is nobody was hurt despite a few close calls with surrounding cars.
Thursday, November 23, 2006
AN INVITATION!!!
We, the members of the blog Asrar ElBanat (AeB) , are extending an invitation to ALL readers.
AeB is all about getting that frustration with the opposite sex out in the open, so we thought we could sure use YOUR stories as well!!
ALL the members of AeB are "banat" obviously..but we welcome the views of guys..we know they're confused too ;)
All you have to do is send in your stories about the opposite sex (doesnt have to be love related, could be about the traffic guy near your house!) to the blog's email
asrar-elbanat@googlegroups.com and if it's got the right mix of honesty/reality/humor, we'll post it on AeB's blog!!!!
So no need to waste your great stories as comments, POST THEM!
Wednesday, November 22, 2006
Sometimes Love Just Aint Enough- Cont.
There's something very intriguing in being part of a blog where not all the members know each other :) (believe it or not!)
The lyrics are so beautiful that I had to find the MP3..
So from one anonymous member to another, here it is:
Listen whole song now!
Patty Smyth "Patty Smyth"— Sometimes Love Just Ain`t Enough
Patty Smyth "Patty Smyth"— Sometimes Love Just Ain`t Enough
:o)
Everyone enjoy!It's amazing!
Tuesday, November 21, 2006
Sometimes Love Just Aint Enough..a Song that Says it ALL!
Ok,
May be we have talked before about aches of love and that torn out confusion between what your "heart calls" and what your "mind says"..
some people are jsut lucky (or shall i say determined) to make peace between their minds and hearts ...[Oh! God i love him..He makes me feel so good..never been satisified that much before] [Oh! but God there seem to be some differences that can not be conciliated! if not for this itchy habit! or that intolerable attitude! if only he could.....! or only if he did...!]
Lucky them!
but sometimes..and many times
people dont choose love..with all its magical force..
they jsut settle down with their logical vibes..
to announce the deafeat of love
and say "Sometimes Love aint jsut Enough".
its a lovely song
that i only heard accidently ..
couldnt find its mp3 :'(
but i thought the lyrics are as strong..
enjoy!
i don't wanna lose you, I don't wanna use you
May be we have talked before about aches of love and that torn out confusion between what your "heart calls" and what your "mind says"..
some people are jsut lucky (or shall i say determined) to make peace between their minds and hearts ...[Oh! God i love him..He makes me feel so good..never been satisified that much before] [Oh! but God there seem to be some differences that can not be conciliated! if not for this itchy habit! or that intolerable attitude! if only he could.....! or only if he did...!]
Lucky them!
but sometimes..and many times
people dont choose love..with all its magical force..
they jsut settle down with their logical vibes..
to announce the deafeat of love
and say "Sometimes Love aint jsut Enough".
its a lovely song
that i only heard accidently ..
couldnt find its mp3 :'(
but i thought the lyrics are as strong..
enjoy!
Sometimes Love Just Aint Enough
Patty Smyth
Don Henley
i don't wanna lose you, I don't wanna use you
Just to have somebody by my side
And i don't wanna hate you I don't wanna take you
But i don't wanna be the one to cry
That don't really matter to anyone, anymore
But like a fool i keep losing my place
And i keep seeing you walk through that door
But there's a danger in loving somebody too much
And its sad when you know its your heart you can't trust
There's a reason why people don't stay where they are
Baby sometimes love just ain't enough
Now i could never change you, I don't wanna blame you
Baby you don't have to take the fall
Yes i may have hurt you, But i did not desert you
Maybe i just wanna have it all
It makes a sound like thunder
It makes me feel like rain
And like a fool who will never see the truth
I keep thinking something's gonna change
But there's a danger in loving somebody too much
And its sad when you know its your heart you can't trust
There's a reason why people don't stay where they are
Baby sometimes love just ain't enough
And there's no way home
When it's late at night and you're all alone
Are there things that you wanted to say
Do you feel me beside you in your bed
There beside you where i used to lay
And there's a danger in loving somebody too much
And it's sad when you know its your heart they can't touch.
There's a reason why people don't stay who they are
Cause baby sometimes love just ain't enough.
Baby sometimes love just ain't enough.
Monday, November 20, 2006
The Impossible Relationship
What is there that is so attractive about achieving the impossible? knowledge that something can never work out or is forbidden only adds to that attraction. We fight wars we know we are destined to lose. We desire relationships and people that are so wrong for us. It is never meant to be, there are too many obstacles, yet the couple is blinded by love. Somehow all the greatest story romances have been impossible relationships. It has become such that a normal functioning relationship between compatable people is not romantic because it lacks the heartache, the struggle and the inevitable defeat. Or perhaps not too inevitable. I will grant you that some rare cases work out.
My only point is sometimes you have to give in to the fact that there is a possiblity that you can loose the war you are waging in order to keep the man you love. I am not anti-love or anti-romance, but sometimes being outside a relationship provides you with the necessary clarity to be judgemental, to be the voice of reason. Maybe you are destined to be together, but if it doesn't work out, be accepting of that as well.
My only point is sometimes you have to give in to the fact that there is a possiblity that you can loose the war you are waging in order to keep the man you love. I am not anti-love or anti-romance, but sometimes being outside a relationship provides you with the necessary clarity to be judgemental, to be the voice of reason. Maybe you are destined to be together, but if it doesn't work out, be accepting of that as well.
Thursday, November 16, 2006
Platonic Relationships: do they exist?!
After much observation, many situations and a LOT of deliberation, I've come to the conclusion that so-called platonic relationships do not exist. According to Wikipedia "A simple example of platonic relationships is a deep, non-sexual friendship between two heterosexual people of the opposite sexes." Yeah, right. How is it that when you find the most interesting, fun, easy to be with person (of the opposite sex) in the world you breathe a huge sigh of relief and say "Ok, you'll be my best friend while I desperately look for another interesting, fun, easy to be with guy whom I can marry." Huh?! Why NOT be with this guy? Who said you have to be just friends and nothing more, especially when everyone agrees that the best relationships are the ones that started out as friendships?
Say you suddenly see the light and realize that being with your best friend forever would make a beautiful, Hollywoody transformation of your amazing freindship...but he doesn't think so! Oh yes, he says you're simply wonderful, he can't get enough of the fun you have together, you can read each other's minds and finish each other's sentences, you're the first person he calls in triumphs and crisis, and he's complimented you enough times on your looks to make you damn sure he finds you attractive. Problem is, he says you're the "best friend he's ever had", but it never occurs to him that you could be more; even though he often says that his dream girl has long black hair and a freckle on her left eyelid (which you have), loves women's wrestling (which you do) and will be the "best friend he's ever had"!!!!!!!
Say you suddenly see the light and realize that being with your best friend forever would make a beautiful, Hollywoody transformation of your amazing freindship...but he doesn't think so! Oh yes, he says you're simply wonderful, he can't get enough of the fun you have together, you can read each other's minds and finish each other's sentences, you're the first person he calls in triumphs and crisis, and he's complimented you enough times on your looks to make you damn sure he finds you attractive. Problem is, he says you're the "best friend he's ever had", but it never occurs to him that you could be more; even though he often says that his dream girl has long black hair and a freckle on her left eyelid (which you have), loves women's wrestling (which you do) and will be the "best friend he's ever had"!!!!!!!
Wednesday, November 15, 2006
Love test
I know this will seem rather naive; but wouldn't be cool if there was a love detector. Kinda a portable kit (much like the pregnancy one) where by a simple over the counter bought test you could know for sure. No grey areas, no maybes, no he-loves-me-he-loves-me-nots. A simple test with clear cut answers. Red -- BINGO he loves you. Blue -- Hard luck, he just ain't that into you.
Imagine how much time and energy and emotional stress that would save. No more second guessing, no more speculation, just good god-given love. Wouldn't that be the life. Where you on a third date would be able to tell that this young man or woman is THE ONE* and you should proceed with the relationship. OR this young man or woman is strictly friend material, steer clear to avoid heartbreak and disappointment.
I'm gonna stop dreaming now and get back to the real world where I may or may not be in love with a young man who may or may not be in love with me. Not having any conclusive tests, I'm not quite certain.
* the writers of this blog are painfully aware of the fact that the concept of THE ONE is highly fictional and the product of hollywood and corporate America's grand scheme of brainwashing us into buying thier products. Yet we remain hopeful that someday each of our reader's prince (or princess) will come her (his) way.
Monday, November 13, 2006
SickO Fans!
It never seizes to amuse me how men can get so emotional over a game!
A couple of days ago El Ahly won the Africa Club Cup against it's Tunisiuan rival. To me this is a win for El Ahly & for Egypt as a whole. (And even though, it's still a GAME!)
Anyway, I was forced to see it from a whole other prespective yesterday.
I was returning from work & with colleuges.. One of them, whom I dont know very well, talked NON STOP about the match!!!
He (lets call him "sicko" for short ) was a devoted Zamalik fan. That is his choice ofcourse. But sicko was SOO worked out that El Ahly won I thought he was having a nervous break down!!
Sicko ofcourse explained that the win was a result of luck & the prayers of mothers...humm...
He then strarted praying himself all the ill wishes that could be bestowed upon the Ahly..till it reached the extent of wishing the Cairo Tower fell over the club premesis & kill all members!!!
I couldnt be quiet anymore & asked him how he has all this "3'ell" inside him?? Why doesnt he see it as a win for an "Egyptian" club??
He said if El Ahly was playing any country (even Israel) he'd support it against El Ahly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sicko explained that he hates El Ahly more than he likes Zamalik!
Weird beyond belief.
How can men become so angry...all for a game?
Is it because I'm a girl?? Or is it because I have more important things to get myself worked out about & guys like sicko are "airheads"???
Saturday, November 11, 2006
Interesting Forward
ADVICE TO BE PASSED ON TO YOUR DAUGHTERS:
Don't imagine you can change a man - unless he's in diapers.
What do you do if your boyfriend walks out? You shut the door.
If they put a man on the moon - they should be able to put them allup there.
Never let your man's mind wander - it's too little to be out alone.
Go for the younger man. You might as well, they never mature anyway.
Men are all the same - they just have different faces, so that youcan tell them apart.
Definition of a bachelor: a man who has missed the opportunity tomake some woman miserable.
Women don't make fools of men - most of them are the do-it-yourself types.
Best way to get a man to do something is to suggest he is too old for it.
Love is blind, but marriage is a real eye-opener.
If you want a committed man, look in a mental hospital.
Remember a sense of humor does not mean that you tell him jokes, itmeans that you laugh at his.
Don't imagine you can change a man - unless he's in diapers.
What do you do if your boyfriend walks out? You shut the door.
If they put a man on the moon - they should be able to put them allup there.
Never let your man's mind wander - it's too little to be out alone.
Go for the younger man. You might as well, they never mature anyway.
Men are all the same - they just have different faces, so that youcan tell them apart.
Definition of a bachelor: a man who has missed the opportunity tomake some woman miserable.
Women don't make fools of men - most of them are the do-it-yourself types.
Best way to get a man to do something is to suggest he is too old for it.
Love is blind, but marriage is a real eye-opener.
If you want a committed man, look in a mental hospital.
Remember a sense of humor does not mean that you tell him jokes, itmeans that you laugh at his.
Thursday, November 09, 2006
New Drugs for Women
D A M N I T O L Take 2 and the rest of the world can go to hell for up to 8 full hours.
ST. M O M M A'S W O R T Plant extract that treats mom's depression by rendering preschoolers unconscious for up to two days.
E M P T Y N E S T R O G E N Suppository that eliminates melancholy and loneliness by reminding you of how awful they were as teenagers and how you couldn't wait till they moved out.
P E P T O B I M B O Liquid silicone drink for single women. Two full cups swallowed before an evening out increases breast size, decreases intelligence, and prevents conception.
D U M B E R O L When taken with Peptobimbo, can cause dangerously low IQ, resulting in enjoyment of country music and pickup trucks.
F L I P I T O R Increases life expectancy of commuters by controlling road rage and the urge to flip off other drivers.
M E N I C I L L I N Potent anti-boy-otic for older women. Increases resistance to such lethal lines as, "You make me want to be a better person . Can we get naked now?
BUYAGRA Injectable stimulant taken prior to shopping Increases potency, duration, and credit limit of spending spree.
J A C K A S S P I R I N Relieves headache caused by a man who can't remember your birthday, anniversary, phone number, or to lift the toilet seat.
A N T I-T A L K S I D E N T A spray carried in a purse or wallet to be used on anyone too eager to share their life stories with total strangers in elevators.
N A G A M E N T When administered to a boyfriend or husband, provides the same irritation level as nagging him
ST. M O M M A'S W O R T Plant extract that treats mom's depression by rendering preschoolers unconscious for up to two days.
E M P T Y N E S T R O G E N Suppository that eliminates melancholy and loneliness by reminding you of how awful they were as teenagers and how you couldn't wait till they moved out.
P E P T O B I M B O Liquid silicone drink for single women. Two full cups swallowed before an evening out increases breast size, decreases intelligence, and prevents conception.
D U M B E R O L When taken with Peptobimbo, can cause dangerously low IQ, resulting in enjoyment of country music and pickup trucks.
F L I P I T O R Increases life expectancy of commuters by controlling road rage and the urge to flip off other drivers.
M E N I C I L L I N Potent anti-boy-otic for older women. Increases resistance to such lethal lines as, "You make me want to be a better person . Can we get naked now?
BUYAGRA Injectable stimulant taken prior to shopping Increases potency, duration, and credit limit of spending spree.
J A C K A S S P I R I N Relieves headache caused by a man who can't remember your birthday, anniversary, phone number, or to lift the toilet seat.
A N T I-T A L K S I D E N T A spray carried in a purse or wallet to be used on anyone too eager to share their life stories with total strangers in elevators.
N A G A M E N T When administered to a boyfriend or husband, provides the same irritation level as nagging him
Wednesday, November 08, 2006
Tuesday, November 07, 2006
Caramels, candies and chocolates
A beautiful song crossed my path a few days ago.. with my compulsive urge to share..I give you :
Listen whole song now!
Dalida "Grand Collection"— Paroles, Paroles (Dalida Avec Alain Delon) (1973)
Dalida "Grand Collection"— Paroles, Paroles (Dalida Avec Alain Delon) (1973)
Now don't get me wrong, I know no french..but there is something about french songs that makes you want to get up & slow dance...doesn't it?
But even apart from the song itself..the lyrics are amazing!
I suggest you read the lyrics (there's an english translation) while listening to the song..
Reading the lyrics..it's an original He said / She said conversation...invinsible throughout countries/cultures/time...
Men are so tactful in words...Women are so in need for actions..
That's AMOUR
It starts out simple enough, two individuals meet under very normal circumstances. They start talking just to discover how much they have in common. They quickly become friends, but wait, there's a spark there, could it be? It's amour.
As the days pass by the relationship blooms, things start to take on a more serious form. Promises are made. Then it happens, you wake up one day to realize that things are not as they seem. A harsh new reality is forced upon you. Your prince in shining armour has failed to sell the idea to his parents and is now defeated. He doesn't seem like he is trying anymore, as if he himself is shocked at his inability to defend what to him should be a life or death issue.
You drift apart, its easier not to meet. You feel wounded, betrayed, confused, sad and angry. You feel almost dissapointed, angry at him for not coming through on his promises.
Yet, there is still something there. You long for what you had before. You miss him even more than you are willing to admit. Simple, everyday things remind you of him, of you as a couple. You might hate him but only because you are still in love with him.
A part of you realizes that you should move on. Yet another is still soft on him. You are reminiscint of the times you had together. You wish things were different and honey I wish they were. If only things were simpler.
As the days pass by the relationship blooms, things start to take on a more serious form. Promises are made. Then it happens, you wake up one day to realize that things are not as they seem. A harsh new reality is forced upon you. Your prince in shining armour has failed to sell the idea to his parents and is now defeated. He doesn't seem like he is trying anymore, as if he himself is shocked at his inability to defend what to him should be a life or death issue.
You drift apart, its easier not to meet. You feel wounded, betrayed, confused, sad and angry. You feel almost dissapointed, angry at him for not coming through on his promises.
Yet, there is still something there. You long for what you had before. You miss him even more than you are willing to admit. Simple, everyday things remind you of him, of you as a couple. You might hate him but only because you are still in love with him.
A part of you realizes that you should move on. Yet another is still soft on him. You are reminiscint of the times you had together. You wish things were different and honey I wish they were. If only things were simpler.
He's just not that into you!
In their new book, He's Just Not That Into You, Greg and Liz have written a set of new dating standards for women. They want women to raise the bar for themselves. Standard-Raising SuggestionsI will not go out with a man who:
(a) Keeps me waiting by the phone
(b) Is not sure he wants to date me
(c) Makes me feel sexually undesirable
(d) Drinks or does drugs to an extent that makes me uncomfortable
(e) Fears talking about our future
(f) Is marriedI will not, under any circumstances, spend my precious time with a man who has already rejected me or who is not clearly a good, kind, loving person.
Liberating Vocabulary
Friend: A person who is your pal. What it generally means in relationships is he's just not that into you.
Busy: Busy means I'm the President of the United States. I'm an astronaut and I'm on another planet. I'm in a really successful band. What it means in relationships is, yeah, I'm just not that into you.
Bad boy: A bad boy is just a bad boy. Stay away. If you're dating somebody that's a bad boy, that's just your fault. If you say "my boyfriend's kind of a bad boy," I feel bad for you. If you say, "I like bad boys" well, then I don't feel bad for you. If you say, "I like things that don't work." Okay, good for you. Generally, guys with low self-esteem aren't worth the trouble. They're just not.
The Dog PoundQuestion: So how do you screen for dogs?
Answer: You just don't let him be a dog. Your standards are so high you don't let him be a dog. You can't be played if you're not playing. What I want to say that is so key for everybody to get. Nobody—even if a dog has been a dog. He has been head of the pound. Head of the dog pound. If he meets the right person, he will change his dog pound ways. He just will.
Monday, November 06, 2006
Once upon a time..
Once upon a time.. a girl was a girl...a guy was a guy.. Then suddenly one dreadful decade.. the girl started loosing her hair.. The guy started growing his.. The girl became strong and independent.. The guy became weak and needy.. She had to change to face the tough life.. But why did he change?? Wasn't he tough enough??
Apart from appearances.. personalities of the sexes have changed.. Chivalry is dead.. Courtship = Harassment.
A girl now doesn't have that much time to be "pretty"..she has to stuggle to survive..
What a wonderous time we live in..
Invisibility Cloak
J.K. Rowling made it look like owning an invisibility cloak was a real sweet deal. She depicted it as the key to happiness and adventure. Contrary to popular belief young Potter's invisibility cloak is a mundane item. Take me for example, I'm completely invisible, no cload needed. Esteem issues you say? Hardly. Actually to the rest of humanity I'm as visible, loud and in living colour as people may come. Yet to him, I remain completely invisible, a sheer item he stares blankly through. No matter what I do, my curse of invisibility remains, me he just won't see. Perhaps some day I'll loose that power and his eyes will stop wandering to finally rest on me. Question remains, when he finally sees me, would he still be visible to me?
Sunday, November 05, 2006
On being single
Looking around at the couples around me, I'm pushed to the conclusion that perhaps we as humans were not meant to exist in the couple state. It would seem that anywhere you looked you found two people who from the outside look absolutely adorable gradually discovering that they are completely wrong for each other. This moment of clarity varies. Some discover it while dating, others months into an engagement, some even after 5 years of marriage. It would seem that people in a relationship, people fresh out of a relationship and people not in a relationship are all miserable. Can mankind ever be happy?? When you are single you yearn to be with someone, when you are with someone you feel like you want to kill them just to be rid of them, when you are rid of them you can't sleep nights and you wallow in depression. Humans are just WEIRD.
Thursday, November 02, 2006
A Letter to my Man
Dearest My Man,
It has been sometime since we had one of those intimate talks..whereby I talk out everything to you ..you hear me..you understand..we reach a comprimise ...we are satisfied..we love each other even more!
Our familiar cycle of getting closer :)
Thought i would write you this time instead of face to face...since lately i noticed you have been drifted away ..and we seem to have this ugly gap getting wider!
My Love..
My Man..
May Partner..
My Soul..
My Friend..
My Shield..
Dont you know that of all the areas i can handle...our relationship is my weakest link?
Dont you know that i strive the most to make our relationship a comfortable zone for us?
Dont you know that even if i attain the highest places in everything i do..but i feel am not on clear ground with you..then nothing..i say nothing..makes it up for me?
dont you know that when i have one of our clashes..everything seem dark to me?
Ask my friends (gurls)..they would tell you..how i look when i go to them or call them after a fight?
Ask my tears..who come to my rescue when i feel abandoned by you!
Ask my eyes who refuse to sleep at nite! or my stomach who refuses any food until you and i are back again!
Darling, am so fragile around you..
Darling, i have been created from your bend rib..the one closeset to your heart..
Have you thought why?
its because of my nature..
closest to you heart..coz i am created for you to welcome you to my heart..to surround you with my love..take you away from your external rough world to my softest paradise..i am here for you with all my care..
bend rib..coz i might not always say logic things..i might now always explain my self to you..my mood is like a wave ..up and down..i might not always face bravely my darkest moments and my tears might always be there..
and if you try to straighten forcefully this rib..what happens? it gets broken! huh?
so please next time when i seem a puzzle to you..please remember the above..and try to mend me soul slowly with compassion..with your understanding..
i dont promise that i will straighten up..for its my nature..but i promise i will try my best to make myself clear :) but at the same time..i will do what i do best..Love you with all my soul~
Yours always,
Your Gurl~
It has been sometime since we had one of those intimate talks..whereby I talk out everything to you ..you hear me..you understand..we reach a comprimise ...we are satisfied..we love each other even more!
Our familiar cycle of getting closer :)
Thought i would write you this time instead of face to face...since lately i noticed you have been drifted away ..and we seem to have this ugly gap getting wider!
My Love..
My Man..
May Partner..
My Soul..
My Friend..
My Shield..
Dont you know that of all the areas i can handle...our relationship is my weakest link?
Dont you know that i strive the most to make our relationship a comfortable zone for us?
Dont you know that even if i attain the highest places in everything i do..but i feel am not on clear ground with you..then nothing..i say nothing..makes it up for me?
dont you know that when i have one of our clashes..everything seem dark to me?
Ask my friends (gurls)..they would tell you..how i look when i go to them or call them after a fight?
Ask my tears..who come to my rescue when i feel abandoned by you!
Ask my eyes who refuse to sleep at nite! or my stomach who refuses any food until you and i are back again!
Darling, am so fragile around you..
Darling, i have been created from your bend rib..the one closeset to your heart..
Have you thought why?
its because of my nature..
closest to you heart..coz i am created for you to welcome you to my heart..to surround you with my love..take you away from your external rough world to my softest paradise..i am here for you with all my care..
bend rib..coz i might not always say logic things..i might now always explain my self to you..my mood is like a wave ..up and down..i might not always face bravely my darkest moments and my tears might always be there..
and if you try to straighten forcefully this rib..what happens? it gets broken! huh?
so please next time when i seem a puzzle to you..please remember the above..and try to mend me soul slowly with compassion..with your understanding..
i dont promise that i will straighten up..for its my nature..but i promise i will try my best to make myself clear :) but at the same time..i will do what i do best..Love you with all my soul~
Yours always,
Your Gurl~
The root of all evil
I may be walking on dreaded waters here..but I believe in honesty..& I believe in conversation. Meaning that in a civilized way, I will explain what's causing me dismay. And in the same way, I ask you to tell me your point of the story. This is the only way common ground can be reached. Deal?
Ok.
Now everyone is talking about the recent Mass Sexual Harassment incident that occured in downtown cairo during Eid. It is a shocking and horrific incident to ANY woman & also to men. It means that we're turning into a total anarchy. These revolting actions were targeted towards ALL women..even those accomapnied by men.
On my way to work today I heard on the radio (Negoom FM) some people commenting on this incident & on the topic of sexual harassment in the streets of cairo in general. A couple of girls sent in saying that the blame is not totally on the men, actually it is "usually" the woman's fault. OH GOOD GOD!
Now from previous experience, which I will tell you about, I'm 90% positive such comments were by veiled girls (but not ALL veiled girls think this way). Now these girls are to be pittied, NOT cause they are veiled but cause they have fallen prey to a huge plan.
Covering up is a "personal" decision. It is up to a girl to decide how she would like to appear infront of the society that she belongs to. But that gives that girl ZERO right to mendle with other people's rights. And if she does, then she deserves any trouble she recieves from others. Fair enough?
Now the master plan that some girls have been tricked into is also a MAN-Made one. It is to spread through woman the idea of "You are to blame". That women are destined to have what poor men CANNOT resist. Men, bless their weak souls, have ZERO control on their sexual desires. They remain apes & women are REQUIRED to hide themselves in order to avoid their hungry stares/hands...etc. What a huge pile of smelly SH**!
It is also a generalization that is not fair to alot of men, to be fair.
Now if a women decides to fall for this plan..up to her. But if she decides to spread it...BIG MISTAKE! Cause other women, will not..shall not allow this. For me to be told that I'm the root to all eveil is like saying that food makes you thin! Women are HALF the society. They are an active part of building and managing the life we live.
Now back to my personal experiences in the matter. During my college years more & more girls got veiled. Most of them went from an extreme to another. From wearing tight, revealing clothes to wearing a 3abaya... Now this says something about the personality at hand. No moderation & abrupt change.. hummm.
Anyway, homma horreeeeeen. But the funny part is yet to come. I was faced ,either directly or indirectly,with HARASSMENT from several veiled GIRLS!!!!!!
Indirectly they would stick all those arabic banners in the lecture rooms or ladies rooms saying things like "El hijab abl el Hisaab"...& stuff like you're not really a muslim unless you're covered...humm... Now my question here, did I ask for their advise? did someone give them the authority to give me advise? do they think covering up makes them a better muslim?
Now as for direct actions, lets not talk about the stares they'd give (knowing that I'm a very conservative dresser) but lets talk about actual incidents. The most importent occured when some veiled & 3abayad girls were collecting money for good causes. They were giving bruchures to girls around them & I was standing with one of my very close friends (who is velied), they approuched, gave her a bruchure & ignored me totally. TOTALLY! I watched them & noticed that they only gave to covered girls!!!!!!!!
Great, if that's not discrimination then I don't know what it is.
Ofcourse there were the incidents that I witnessed like when a friend of mine was going for 3omra, another veiled friend of others told her "Alf mabrook, w Insha2Allah keda terga3elna b lebas el mar2a el moslema, wala eih ?" & she patted her on the shoulder! Lebas EIH???
Lebas????
This is hilarious.
If only people could mind their own business & know that not all they do should be done by everyone else, maybe we'd make life alot easier.
Ok.
Now everyone is talking about the recent Mass Sexual Harassment incident that occured in downtown cairo during Eid. It is a shocking and horrific incident to ANY woman & also to men. It means that we're turning into a total anarchy. These revolting actions were targeted towards ALL women..even those accomapnied by men.
On my way to work today I heard on the radio (Negoom FM) some people commenting on this incident & on the topic of sexual harassment in the streets of cairo in general. A couple of girls sent in saying that the blame is not totally on the men, actually it is "usually" the woman's fault. OH GOOD GOD!
Now from previous experience, which I will tell you about, I'm 90% positive such comments were by veiled girls (but not ALL veiled girls think this way). Now these girls are to be pittied, NOT cause they are veiled but cause they have fallen prey to a huge plan.
Covering up is a "personal" decision. It is up to a girl to decide how she would like to appear infront of the society that she belongs to. But that gives that girl ZERO right to mendle with other people's rights. And if she does, then she deserves any trouble she recieves from others. Fair enough?
Now the master plan that some girls have been tricked into is also a MAN-Made one. It is to spread through woman the idea of "You are to blame". That women are destined to have what poor men CANNOT resist. Men, bless their weak souls, have ZERO control on their sexual desires. They remain apes & women are REQUIRED to hide themselves in order to avoid their hungry stares/hands...etc. What a huge pile of smelly SH**!
It is also a generalization that is not fair to alot of men, to be fair.
Now if a women decides to fall for this plan..up to her. But if she decides to spread it...BIG MISTAKE! Cause other women, will not..shall not allow this. For me to be told that I'm the root to all eveil is like saying that food makes you thin! Women are HALF the society. They are an active part of building and managing the life we live.
Now back to my personal experiences in the matter. During my college years more & more girls got veiled. Most of them went from an extreme to another. From wearing tight, revealing clothes to wearing a 3abaya... Now this says something about the personality at hand. No moderation & abrupt change.. hummm.
Anyway, homma horreeeeeen. But the funny part is yet to come. I was faced ,either directly or indirectly,with HARASSMENT from several veiled GIRLS!!!!!!
Indirectly they would stick all those arabic banners in the lecture rooms or ladies rooms saying things like "El hijab abl el Hisaab"...& stuff like you're not really a muslim unless you're covered...humm... Now my question here, did I ask for their advise? did someone give them the authority to give me advise? do they think covering up makes them a better muslim?
Now as for direct actions, lets not talk about the stares they'd give (knowing that I'm a very conservative dresser) but lets talk about actual incidents. The most importent occured when some veiled & 3abayad girls were collecting money for good causes. They were giving bruchures to girls around them & I was standing with one of my very close friends (who is velied), they approuched, gave her a bruchure & ignored me totally. TOTALLY! I watched them & noticed that they only gave to covered girls!!!!!!!!
Great, if that's not discrimination then I don't know what it is.
Ofcourse there were the incidents that I witnessed like when a friend of mine was going for 3omra, another veiled friend of others told her "Alf mabrook, w Insha2Allah keda terga3elna b lebas el mar2a el moslema, wala eih ?" & she patted her on the shoulder! Lebas EIH???
Lebas????
This is hilarious.
If only people could mind their own business & know that not all they do should be done by everyone else, maybe we'd make life alot easier.
Weirdo Del Manno and The Womanno Frustratido
Once upon a time in some spanish french egyptain safari park there was found weirdo del manno and womanno frustratido two new kinds of creatures that has to live togther (god knows why) after researches it was found en weirdo delmanno is just created to annoy the womanno frustratido while anesa frustratido b2a was found en she was created to be pissed off by what he does w teskot it was delmanno's mission everyday to make her sleep either confused or depressed the day he fails to do so the other weirdos delmannos would call him a wommano w mush manno 7'alis 3ashan hwa ma3rfsh yeday2 womanno frustratido after he finished annoying her which is usually when she sleeps he goes out hunting for bitcho whoro a third kind of creatures who is found past midnight and goes hang and have a good time time until wommano wakes up again wo he leaves bitcho to go annoy womanno until she sleeps agian and so on...will womanno take revenge will manno f*** off will bitcho get a life that's what we'll know tomorrow with another episode of weirdo delmanno.
Wednesday, November 01, 2006
Handle With Care
I'm fragile;But I'm not made of glass;
So don't try to see through me.
I'm small;
But I'm no child;
So don't decieve me.
I'm sweet;
But I don't melt in your mouth;
So don't use me.
I was once your rib that enclosed your heart;
Now I'm the only way you can have a heart.
I'm a woman;
Handle with care.
Tears
We had been working non-stop since 8 in the morning, we were all tense, exhausted and totally consumed, when suddenly she breaks into a fit of crying. Not the stuff you get when watching a sad movie where the hero just died, I'm talking full fledged waterworks. She sobbed silently, her face went all read and she looked like she fought for every breath she took. We all gathered round her trying to figure out what's wrong, trying to comfort her. Comments like "screw the work we will take care of it, don't cry..".
Several gasps later and after ample amounts of tissue have been used up, she looked at us through the tears and said; "Its not the work, work wouldn't make me cry, the only thing on the planet capable of making a woman cry is a guy."
She wouldn't say another word, we never figured out what was in that fatal e-mail or msn chat session. Yet it pains me the degree to which it is true. That to women, the only thing worth crying over is guys.. yet those ingrateful idiots never cease to make us cry.
