Platonic Relationships: do they exist?!
After much observation, many situations and a LOT of deliberation, I've come to the conclusion that so-called platonic relationships do not exist. According to Wikipedia "A simple example of platonic relationships is a deep, non-sexual friendship between two heterosexual people of the opposite sexes." Yeah, right. How is it that when you find the most interesting, fun, easy to be with person (of the opposite sex) in the world you breathe a huge sigh of relief and say "Ok, you'll be my best friend while I desperately look for another interesting, fun, easy to be with guy whom I can marry." Huh?! Why NOT be with this guy? Who said you have to be just friends and nothing more, especially when everyone agrees that the best relationships are the ones that started out as friendships?
Say you suddenly see the light and realize that being with your best friend forever would make a beautiful, Hollywoody transformation of your amazing freindship...but he doesn't think so! Oh yes, he says you're simply wonderful, he can't get enough of the fun you have together, you can read each other's minds and finish each other's sentences, you're the first person he calls in triumphs and crisis, and he's complimented you enough times on your looks to make you damn sure he finds you attractive. Problem is, he says you're the "best friend he's ever had", but it never occurs to him that you could be more; even though he often says that his dream girl has long black hair and a freckle on her left eyelid (which you have), loves women's wrestling (which you do) and will be the "best friend he's ever had"!!!!!!!
Say you suddenly see the light and realize that being with your best friend forever would make a beautiful, Hollywoody transformation of your amazing freindship...but he doesn't think so! Oh yes, he says you're simply wonderful, he can't get enough of the fun you have together, you can read each other's minds and finish each other's sentences, you're the first person he calls in triumphs and crisis, and he's complimented you enough times on your looks to make you damn sure he finds you attractive. Problem is, he says you're the "best friend he's ever had", but it never occurs to him that you could be more; even though he often says that his dream girl has long black hair and a freckle on her left eyelid (which you have), loves women's wrestling (which you do) and will be the "best friend he's ever had"!!!!!!!
it's usually the opposite, women have platonic friends and men have women they haven't slept with/dated yet :)
anyway sounds like your guy friend is relationship-challenged (if he is indeed a true character)
the problem is sometimes we (as guys) have been through a lot of trouble with previous friendships that it's not worth the hassle of trying to make it work, we ba3dein momken yekoon Gay, in all cases there are two plans of action
1) ignore your feelings and e7meddy rabena/ be thankful that you have this wonderful friend
2) crank up the basbassa level (without being sappy/girly/melaza2a) and watch the magic happen
i honestly believe that 95% (and the remaining 5% doal men 3andy) of all friendships had one of the parties interested in the other at some point during the friendship, but usually that goes away in a while
Posted by
KareemFromEgypt |
9:06 PM
have you ever heard of the friendship zone?
it's... it's when you and the guy have just shared TOO much. you've heard all his embarrassing situations with girls. he's told you about the girls he's liked... bass khalas the spark is lost!
or else there was no spark in the first place, or maybe there was at sometime but it just went away. ya3ni there's just no attraction in that way. you never know who your heart will love... or else the guy/girl might be missing something, or has a fault that you just can't get past. like i have this guy friend that's a really amazing guy, but he has too many female friends for my liking, so i can never like him in that way. but then again i used to like a guy who knew half the girls in the country, soo.. you never really know how love flows!
i dont know.. i have a lot of mixed feelings about this issue, and i change my mind about it ALL the time. i'll probably have a different opinion about this tomorrow :p
Posted by
Aisha |
2:56 PM
I totally feel for you. Too bad he didn't reciprocate, I'm pretty sure its his loss.
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Juka |
5:02 PM
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