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"Happily Ever After"...a myth?!

Hey gurls,

hakhosh fel mawdou3 3alatoul..

I was talking to on of my colleagues.."MALE"..he is a nice young mane.. 30 years old ..married 4-5 years ago ..with a 3 yr old kid and expecting soon another isa..supposedly he got married after a love story ..zemeltouh fel gam3a (AUC)..

so far..the normal story..
where its supposed to be ended with "Happily Ever After"..

i barely know the guy..he jsut joined our team..
i noticed he was talkin to his wife over the phone (wasnt eavesdropping...bass howa a23ed oddamy) [side thought?: shouldnt it be earsdropping? gatt menain eaves?]

ma3alina..

he then came to me chatting..
he was like..el gawaz dah mot3eb..
its boils down to demands and obligations..

i was of course all attentive and asked about his marriage story..
which he gladly described ..as i jsut wrote above..
so i was like,
Me: it cant be possibly be this only..to me am dreaming that marriage is about partnership..sharing all your moments..of course there will be moments of boredom and jsut routine..but it can be only about demands and oblgations.
He: No believe me! it will just be it..3eshra!
Me: but at least u loved your wife b4
He: mesh far2ah keteer!!!!!!
Me: ma32oula?
He: the best thing in marriage believe me is ur kids
Me: tab ur wife?
He: she is there ..yeah
Me: u r makin the story very dull..
He: believe me..it is kinda
Me:........ (inner cry: ya mammy!)
He: marriage is amongst one of the things u accomplish in life..so it becomes part of ur life..beside other things..so 3ady!
Me:....... (inner prayer: ya rab i dont end up talking about my marriage the same way)
He: its jsut like having a mobile!!!!
Me: na3am??
He: ma3aky Kart wala Khatt...it depends on what u can afford!
Me: gawaz=mobile?
He: yeah..7aga ya3ny ma3aky..and it differs from one person to another..khatt wala kart!
Me:.........................
He: ana mesh 3ayez a7bettek!
Me: (eye roll) howa enta lessa..

El mohem, dont want to recite the whole talk...this is enough!

So..
Yeah i know marriage is not a fairy tale..
yeah i know happily ever after might be a myth...
but Excuse me..MOBILE?? ?(tab no3ouh eih?!)
then whats with all the talk about sharing and caring..or this is how its supposed to be..
Shouldnt i dream of making marriage a fairy tale?
or being realistic demands that i see marriage that way??
a MOBILE??? (tab i-mate tayyeb?)

7ad yefahemny?!

Oh my God!!! You just described my worst nightmare. Right now I'm praying that this guy's marriage is a special (really depressing) case and that my own won't nessesarily end up like it.

i read what you wrote about that guy..sounds like a depressing story..i was there once..actually a couple of months ago..i just got divorced..all i can say you live what you choose..meaning if you choose the right guy..someone you know well and really love and have many things in common you will not live that life the guy was talking about..but if u do like most of egyptan girls and marry a whoever just coz ur getting old or u want to get married wi 7'alas then u'll end up like him..so my advice is choose right..and fi kteeeeeeeeeeeeer successful marriages and ppl who are sooo happy together after yrs and yrs of marriage..i think ur friend just failed to communicate and understand his wife..so dont worry there is hope and there is love that lasts forever

Its very refreshing to hear another hopeful and optimistic voice out there.

seriously???
ehhh el wahasha di :(

Hi there. Nice blog. Well, I'm a guy who has been married for 4 years, and I wanted to tell you that it doesn't have to be like that at all. For me, the sharing and caring part is certainly there and well worth it. It feels great to have had a bad day at work and then go back to my wife and sit and take out the negativity by being with her. So don't give up.

LOOOOL! That was a funny conversation! One more reason why I believe that happiness is being single!!

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