The Female Instinct
Ever since life began on earth, females have been competing over practically everything. Throughout the ages women have had different back grounds, lived in different circumstances and led different lives. Only one thing is shared by females everywhere: the way they feel about each other. Hardly ever do you meet a woman who doesn't measure herself against other women at least once a day. A classic example of this is when a female walks into a room; all the other female eyes subtly look her over and make an immediate assessment of her clothes, hair, makeup, shoes and nail polish, after which they all start criticizing her. Of course, as soon as she comes near they all switch on bright smiles and pour out fake compliments.
Situation:
A group of girls are at a party when a girl walks into the room. Sherry says "Ugh! Look at her hair. It looks like she put it through a blender." Perry replies with "And can you see those awful shoes?" and Kerry agrees while adding another comment about the girl's dress. As soon as the girl approaches, Sherry, Perry and Kerry immediately start complimenting her on how great she looks, with Sherry stressing on how much she loves the girl's new hair style.
Why do females behave this way? A woman could have a great personality, be a perfect member of the family, with an angelic nature…until she's faced with another woman. Suddenly she develops deep insecurities, a fierce competitiveness and the old female instinct kicks in. She starts to show great aptitude for harsh criticism and for discussing and putting down any other woman she feels is prettier/smarter/better dressed than she is. Even younger females do it. As soon as a girl is old enough to play with dolls, she begins to develop The Instinct. Girls have an amazing ability to put down other girls and the older they get the more they master this "talent". Some even raise it to an art form! The main reason behind this cutthroat bahaviour probably boils down to one possibility: men.
The main goal in each woman's life is to snag a man. And although women differ in their desired criteria most want a man who is handsome, caring, romantic, stylish, ambitious, successful and as a bonus, rich. Now if the world was filled with handsome, romantic and rich men there wouldn't' have been a problem. Unfortunately, this kind of guy is practically an endangered species. So basically every woman in the world has perhaps a one percent chance of landing one of them. The result is that each woman sees other women as rivals for her potential husband, so she spends most of her life trying to get to him before they do.
Situation:
Sherry, Kerry and Perry work in a company. Harry, who bears a strong resemblance to Tom Cruise and drives a Lexus, works with them in the same company in a managerial position. Harry is unattached and therefore a target of almost every single female in the building. Sherry, Kerry and Perry all feud for his attention by every mean possible. Sherry started a rumour in the office that Kerry only takes a bath once a year, Kerry punctured the tires of Sherry and Perry's cars and Perry told Harry that Sherry is in fact married with six kids.
The strange thing is that even women who are friends compete with each other, although a little differently. In this case the rivalry isn't as obvious but just as strong. Females friends aren't always open with each other and in many cases say or do things to each other with completely different intentions that the ones they show. For example, a woman almost never tells her friend the complete truth. If a woman asks for a friend's opinion on a new dress, she'll almost always say that it's wonderful even if she actually thinks it looks awful. And nine times out of ten, she'll tell the rest of their group of friends her real opinion behind her back. Another example is when a woman gets a new job/engaged/married and tells her friends. They'll all immediately start congratulating her excitedly and pretend to be genuinely happy for her when in fact most of them are thinking enviously "Why couldn't it happen to me?" No woman is really happy for another woman when she gets something or succeeds except in one case: when she gets something better or is even more successful.
Situation:
Sherry meets a great guy and wants to introduce him to Perry and Kerry. She spends all week telling them about how great he is and all the time they pretend to be happy for her while secretly hoping she'll shut up about it. After they meet him they spend all of the next week complimenting her and praising him to the skies while they secretly make fun of his shoes and criticize her taste in men.
Females are known for their talent to come up with ways to reach their targets. A woman who is competing with another woman will stop at nothing to beat her, especially when the competition is over a man. This case is even more noticeable when one of them already has him, as the other woman will feel that it's only a matter of time before he notices her charms and makes the right choice. In a female war, every weapon is legal. Weapons such as makeup, expensive clothes and charming conversation come out at the most convenient times; and most of the time they make a definite impact.
Situation:
Perry arranges a night out to introduce her new boyfriend to her friends Kerry and Sherry. Perry has been talking about him nonstop for weeks, how cute, how successful and how utterly wonderful he is, so Sherry and Kerry are really looking forward to meeting him. In fact, each one secretly feels that once he lays his eyes on her, he'll be so bowled over by her charm that he'll drop Perry right away and choose her instead. Sherry puts on her best dress and her most attractive jewelry, Kerry showers the guy with compliments and they both spend the whole night flirting with him. When Perry accuses them of trying to steal him away they both innocently declare that they were simply being nice to the guy!
Women have an extensive array of methods in dealing with each other in war and peace. Most women are excellent at using the verbal method. The main activity of any group of women is to gossip bout other women behind their backs. Another popular way of dealing with unwanted competition is to start rumours about the rival which have no trouble of spreading quickly because of the famous female trait of gossiping on the phone. Women rarely resort to violence but that is because they are able to cause more damage by simply opening their mouths.
Females have always been and will always be trying to beat each other to the end of the beauty/marriage/success race, but their means and methods are always extremely different and diverse. One thing about women; they are willing to concoct any crazy scheme to get what they want, and they usually get it!
Source: Mask-Off Magazine
N.B When I wrote the Male Instinct article guys accused me of being anti-men and when I wrote this, suddenly all these angry female readers started accusing me of being a self-hating woman. I just can't win!
The point is, both these articles are for fun, so please, please don't be offended by this my fellow females:-)
Situation:
A group of girls are at a party when a girl walks into the room. Sherry says "Ugh! Look at her hair. It looks like she put it through a blender." Perry replies with "And can you see those awful shoes?" and Kerry agrees while adding another comment about the girl's dress. As soon as the girl approaches, Sherry, Perry and Kerry immediately start complimenting her on how great she looks, with Sherry stressing on how much she loves the girl's new hair style.
Why do females behave this way? A woman could have a great personality, be a perfect member of the family, with an angelic nature…until she's faced with another woman. Suddenly she develops deep insecurities, a fierce competitiveness and the old female instinct kicks in. She starts to show great aptitude for harsh criticism and for discussing and putting down any other woman she feels is prettier/smarter/better dressed than she is. Even younger females do it. As soon as a girl is old enough to play with dolls, she begins to develop The Instinct. Girls have an amazing ability to put down other girls and the older they get the more they master this "talent". Some even raise it to an art form! The main reason behind this cutthroat bahaviour probably boils down to one possibility: men.
The main goal in each woman's life is to snag a man. And although women differ in their desired criteria most want a man who is handsome, caring, romantic, stylish, ambitious, successful and as a bonus, rich. Now if the world was filled with handsome, romantic and rich men there wouldn't' have been a problem. Unfortunately, this kind of guy is practically an endangered species. So basically every woman in the world has perhaps a one percent chance of landing one of them. The result is that each woman sees other women as rivals for her potential husband, so she spends most of her life trying to get to him before they do.
Situation:
Sherry, Kerry and Perry work in a company. Harry, who bears a strong resemblance to Tom Cruise and drives a Lexus, works with them in the same company in a managerial position. Harry is unattached and therefore a target of almost every single female in the building. Sherry, Kerry and Perry all feud for his attention by every mean possible. Sherry started a rumour in the office that Kerry only takes a bath once a year, Kerry punctured the tires of Sherry and Perry's cars and Perry told Harry that Sherry is in fact married with six kids.
The strange thing is that even women who are friends compete with each other, although a little differently. In this case the rivalry isn't as obvious but just as strong. Females friends aren't always open with each other and in many cases say or do things to each other with completely different intentions that the ones they show. For example, a woman almost never tells her friend the complete truth. If a woman asks for a friend's opinion on a new dress, she'll almost always say that it's wonderful even if she actually thinks it looks awful. And nine times out of ten, she'll tell the rest of their group of friends her real opinion behind her back. Another example is when a woman gets a new job/engaged/married and tells her friends. They'll all immediately start congratulating her excitedly and pretend to be genuinely happy for her when in fact most of them are thinking enviously "Why couldn't it happen to me?" No woman is really happy for another woman when she gets something or succeeds except in one case: when she gets something better or is even more successful.
Situation:
Sherry meets a great guy and wants to introduce him to Perry and Kerry. She spends all week telling them about how great he is and all the time they pretend to be happy for her while secretly hoping she'll shut up about it. After they meet him they spend all of the next week complimenting her and praising him to the skies while they secretly make fun of his shoes and criticize her taste in men.
Females are known for their talent to come up with ways to reach their targets. A woman who is competing with another woman will stop at nothing to beat her, especially when the competition is over a man. This case is even more noticeable when one of them already has him, as the other woman will feel that it's only a matter of time before he notices her charms and makes the right choice. In a female war, every weapon is legal. Weapons such as makeup, expensive clothes and charming conversation come out at the most convenient times; and most of the time they make a definite impact.
Situation:
Perry arranges a night out to introduce her new boyfriend to her friends Kerry and Sherry. Perry has been talking about him nonstop for weeks, how cute, how successful and how utterly wonderful he is, so Sherry and Kerry are really looking forward to meeting him. In fact, each one secretly feels that once he lays his eyes on her, he'll be so bowled over by her charm that he'll drop Perry right away and choose her instead. Sherry puts on her best dress and her most attractive jewelry, Kerry showers the guy with compliments and they both spend the whole night flirting with him. When Perry accuses them of trying to steal him away they both innocently declare that they were simply being nice to the guy!
Women have an extensive array of methods in dealing with each other in war and peace. Most women are excellent at using the verbal method. The main activity of any group of women is to gossip bout other women behind their backs. Another popular way of dealing with unwanted competition is to start rumours about the rival which have no trouble of spreading quickly because of the famous female trait of gossiping on the phone. Women rarely resort to violence but that is because they are able to cause more damage by simply opening their mouths.
Females have always been and will always be trying to beat each other to the end of the beauty/marriage/success race, but their means and methods are always extremely different and diverse. One thing about women; they are willing to concoct any crazy scheme to get what they want, and they usually get it!
Source: Mask-Off Magazine
N.B When I wrote the Male Instinct article guys accused me of being anti-men and when I wrote this, suddenly all these angry female readers started accusing me of being a self-hating woman. I just can't win!
The point is, both these articles are for fun, so please, please don't be offended by this my fellow females:-)
we can be evil :)
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2:29 PM
You have no idea how much I laughed while reading the female instinct. And the reason its funny is that it is so true. Plus, it takes a woman to know what women do and think. I seriously agree on every thing that was said and mentioned. Keep up the good work.
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